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Message by Pastor Kunle Osunkunle
Text: Hebrews 10:24 (MSG, NLT)
This message will help you to
bring out the best in your partner as well as other people you relate with
daily.
Marriage is the fusing of two
people to become one. This implies that there is compatibility between the two
people. Though, it will be painful, it requires a lot of effort and adjustment
in order to make it work. What you should ensure is the daily growth of both of
you.
Proverbs 18:22 explains that
there is a favour that comes with marriage and there are things you need to do
that will bring out the best out of your partner. Fights and quarrels or
unresolved disagreement can never achieve this. When you see your husband as a
king and he also sees you as a queen; you will both bring out the best in your
lives.
Relationship requires
bringing out the best in your partner and this involve deep thinking. It
doesn’t happen
by default. When you bring out the best in him or her, it
results to fruitfulness, joy, honour, happiness, fulfilment, success and
victory. So, you need to be innovative, come up with ideas and ways you can
achieve this and invest in your partner.
There is a treasure hidden
deep in your partner’s life which you need to explore. Like a miner, you need
to mine this treasure hidden in him or her and reveal it. just like Jesus
Christ came to the world, loved us, saved us and brought out the best in us;
you should do nothing less for your partner.
When you are dating someone,
you should not do what Jesus Christ will never do to him or her because you are
His representative.
Proverbs 27:17-18.
In the beginning, God gave a
garden to Adam to keep and tend. The same assignment, mandate or instruction
has been given to everyone. Your must keep, protect, grow and improve your
spouse. You should learn how to keep and tend the garden.
One of the reasons why some
men have challenges in their marriages is because they are not tending their
gardens. Your spouse is like a garden which you must take good care of and
invest in her so that you can enjoy the fruits she will produce.
If you are in courtship with
someone, if you or your partner cannot say after some time that you are better
and improved that he or she met you; it means you or your partner aren’t
investing (enough) in your relationship. Relationship is a hardwork and you
should labour together.
You must love your partner more than you first met him or
her. This is because you must have been discovering each other all along. In
order to help your partner in knowing you well, even when he or she annoys you,
you should behave well and learn a better way of doing things. Make sure you
always resolve your differences so that they don’t degenerate into crises. When
he or she offends you, make sure you bring the best out of him or her even with
the offence. This is an act of genuine and sincere love. Before you act or do
anything in your relationship ask yourself this question: “will this action
bring out the best out of him or her?”
Nobody has ever divorced because they cannot meet the needs
of their spouses. They divorced because their own needs are not met.
Because love involves bringing out the best out of your
partner, you should seek for how you can invest in him or her and do things
primarily in his or her interests. This is why relationship requires lot of
patience.
Whatever you desire to see in your spouse make sure you work
it out in him or her. Make sure all you do is to bring out the best in him or
her. As you work towards your growth, ensure that you are always on the same
page, working together.
RESULTS OF BRINGING
OUT THE BEST IN YOUR PARTNER
The following are some of the results of bringing out the
best in your partner.
1.
It brings out the best in you:- Whatever you sow
you will reap. What you should do or ways you should react should be in such a
way as to bring out the best in him or her. By doing so he or she will not only
grow, you will grow as well.
2.
It helps your both of you to fulfill God’s work
or assignment for your relationship. This enhances the fulfillment of what God
called both of you to do.
3.
It creates a wonderful environment for your
children to grow. They will observe both of you and desire to grow and become
like you.
4.
It creates an atmosphere of love that will help
your growth. Love is a decision you take which requires lots of effort. This
effort can only be achieve when you submit yourself to the Holy Spirit. It is
not a feeling you feel when you feel something you have never felt before. It
is a choice you must make to be patient even when situations don’t warrant it.
Remember, bringing out the best in him or her requires patience.
“Patience” means “bearing pains and trials very calmly
without any complain.” That is why the first thing love is, is patience. It is
a very vital means of bringing out the best in your spouse. Make sure that you
don’t always seek your right but the right of your partner. Make sure you
firstly discover your values, focus and vision in life. You need to know his or
her values as well so that you can know where you will have to invest in his or
her life.
Whatever you do to him or her, do as though God is working
in you and through you to him or her. As His representative, you should always
do good because God will never do wrong.
No relationship leaves you the same way it met you. It will
either make you better or bitter. So, work hard to build your relationship.
Where to start is to begin in Jesus Christ and build a strong foundation in a
strong relationship with Him. If anything goes wrong along the way, you can
always call on Him and get back to the foundation to seek for help.
Perhaps, you realize you need to surround your life and
relationship to Jesus Christ today; you don’t need to wait for the next moment.
If you want to decide for Him, pray this prayer with me right now:
“Lord Jesus, I confess that you are Lord. I
believe You died and rose from the dead for my sake. Forgive my sins, be my
Saviour and make me a child of God from this day forward. Fill me with Your
Holy Spirit, in Jesus’ name.”
We look forward to seeing you in our fellowship which holds
every Monday at The Fountain of Life Church, Ilupeju, Lagos by 6pm.
God bless you.
