BATTLE OF THE SEXES: 7 DIFFERENCES BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN (Part 3)

Message by Pastor Kunle Osunkunle

Genesis 1:26- ; 2:15-25

When God created the man and the woman, He made them as such that they are equal before Him; no one is superior to the other. No one is inferior to the other.

We noticed here that, when God created the man, He gave him a work to do. He did not leave him idle in the Garden. He told him to watch and tend the Garden. Therefore, as a man, there is a purpose for your life.

While man was in the Garden working, God found out that for him to fulfill the work He gave him, it is not good for him to be alone. He needs a helper that meets his need. So, a woman is made to be a helper for a man. God has programmed in her for her to help.

By implication, whoever fights his wife fights his helper. God brings a woman into a man’s life as a helper. The reason a man and a woman fights is because they are different, but their design is divine. The ways a man and a woman are wired are divine. But until we start to appreciate these differences, we will not work in unity to fulfill God’s purpose in our design.  Both need to walk and work in unity of purpose.

DIFFERENCE 4: WOMEN ARE INTUITIVE WHILE MEN ARE ANALYTICAL

Usually, a man wants the fact and looks, observe and sees the facts. He premises his decisions on facts. He wants to add up things as a way of critically analyzing issues. But a woman sometimes is not like that. Women a highly sensitive to feelings. It is important to be led by the Holy Spirit. Two spiritual spouses will always
commit their decisions to God.  At times, it is very important that a man follows the intuition of his wife. It doesn’t make you lower, less, inferior or irresponsible when you do so. You need to understand that both of you are not to compete because you are in the same team having the same goal or aim and you want result.

Genesis 1:26-27; 2:15-25; Proverbs 31:10

The basis or foundation of these differences must be understood in their similarities which are that both the man and woman are equal before God. We must understand that both the man and woman are wired differently so that they can fulfill purpose in which they were created for.

This intuitive nature of a woman is also attached to their emotion and can be right or wrong. In their decision making, they sometimes don’t follow facts but rather follow their intuitive feelings. But, men being analytical they follow facts. To balance such situation in a relationship is better that both parties are being led by the Holy Spirit.

DIFFERENCE 5: WOMEN ENJOY THE PROCESS WHILE MEN ARE GOAL-ORIENTED:

For example, when a man enters a shop and wants to buy a shirt, he goes ahead to pick it and pay for it and then gets out of the shop. But, for a woman, it will take a process before she can do the same transaction. So, she will usually check out for the cost and other things besides.

Men concentrate on the content of what is being said, but women not only concentrate on the content, they look out for body language and facial expression as well because they easily receive communication through these media.

When a woman comes to discuss her problem with you, she doesn’t want the solution per say but just wants your emotional support. She wants to enjoy the process of unwinding on the man. Women enjoy the details but men want the conclusion.

DIFFERENCE 6: WOMEN ARE PAST- AND PRESENT-ORIENTED WHILE MEN ARE PRESENT- AND FUTURE-ORIENTED:

This is the reason why men are always planning for the future.

DIFFERENCE 7: WOMEN WANT TO BE LOVED WHILE MEN WANT TO BE RESPECTED:

Men need their wives to advise and admire them in their efforts, accomplishment, abilities and even when they failed. Acknowledgement of something guarantees the urge for another. Men want their spouses to take interest in their jobs and hobbies. Men want women to respect their judgment both in private and in public. Women want their husband to express love to them frequently in their words, actions and everyday life. They want to be appreciated by gift and helping them out when they are tired.

Women want to hear you say words like “I love you.” Men can express their love for their spouses via written poems, text messages, cards, gifts, hugs, etc.

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10. When a man fails, both partners have failed because they have become one. Similarly, when he succeeds, both of them succeed.

Amos 3:3. Both partners must walk in agreement in the spirit, soul and body.

Ephesians 5:18-23; Proverbs 15:4. Agreement becomes easier when both parties submit to the Holy Spirit. Romans 8:5-8.

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