SPIRIT GUIDED RELATIONSHIP

Pastor Kunle Osunkunle

James 1:22-25; 1Kings 2:2-4.

A lot of people want to have the methods of relationship; things like “5 things to do in relationship”, “7 ways of love”, “101 Questions to ask love”, etc. these are good but to sustain a relationship, you need something more than these.
To be a good spouse, you need to be a good and committed Christian. Of a truth, what you need to be a good spouse is the same thing you need to be a good devoted Christian.
Many Christians started their relationships and ended shamefully. They ended up fooling themselves. This suggests to us that it is not all about listening to the counsels from Christian messages in Church or reading the Word of God, but more of doing all that He says to us. If you want to be successful in marriage and sustain your relationship, you must be ready to absolutely obey God and fully adhere strictly to His words and commandments.
God initiated marriage. Genesis 1:27; 2:18-25. When you are going into a relationship or courtship with a view of marriage, you need to understand that God is the Manufacturer, the Author and the Architect; and only He has the manual to guide on how to go about it as such to maximize it to optimum benefit. Therefore, you need to put God first before setting out and stating your choices or desires of your intended partner or spouse.
You cannot judge a man by his past; you need to look into his future (with futurescope) to appropriately assess him.
Marriage is a spiritual relationship, not just a physical one. Its challenges can only be fully dealt with and met by two genuine spiritual people using genuine spiritual principles, ideas, philosophies and guidance. Christians are spiritual beings because we have the same image as God. John 4:23-24.
Proverbs 18:18; Ephesians 5:22-23. God is the Initiator of marriage relationship and He is the only one who joins two people together. Matthew 19:6. In the Scriptures, anywhere issues of marriage relationship are mentioned, God is mentioned too. This ascertained the truth that God is the Initiator of marriage relationship, as a result of this, it can only be sustained in Him through His Spirit; not by human efforts, natural instincts, strength or sagacity, “…for by strength shall no man prevail…”, “…not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit says the Lord Almighty.” Zechariah 4:6.
The God-factor is very important in any relationship. Don’t decide on who you are going to marry outside God’s counsel, that is, in the flesh by mere observing and prioritizing the physical appeals than to the spiritual contents. There are beautiful witches and handsome devils. You need to see the “Corpse Bride” to indisputably understand this. Let God influence your decision and choice.
The person you date or court at the time you enter into a relationship is a function of the level of your spiritual life, that is, your relationship and daily communion with God (and His Spirit).
Genesis 3:1-13. God started marriage relationship with Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden and they were in the bliss. But Eve lost her spiritual senses when she chose to see with her physical eyes and perceived with her mind only. The devil took advantage of this and cunningly deceived her. She also went ahead to persuade her husband Adam. They both were derailed having deceived into disobedience and failure to heed to God’s commands given to them in the Garden. They also neglected the bidding of the Holy Spirit and followed their instincts, personal judgment, perception and logical reasoning which were manipulated through deception by the devil.
Whenever you leave the spiritual realm in your relationship, you begin to move from bliss and peace to kiss (a deceptive sign trying to reassure love), quarrel, misunderstanding, miscommunication, egoism, etc. Whenever you disobey God’s instruction on how to go about your relationship, you will become naked, naked to the wiles and schemes of the devil (your chief enemy); become ashamed and disgraced.
If you want a good relationship, you need to submit totally to the Holy Spirit. He will give you life and peace.
Ephesians 5:18. You need to be filled with the Holy Spirit. If you are not filled with Him when you are in a relationship unwholesome, bitter words will come out of your mouth in response to offence or hurt, instead of forgiveness. Marriage is two perpetual forgivers leaving together. You need to watch what you speak to each other in relationship; do you speak bitter words or better words? Words that build or that which destroy? Graceful words or demoralizing words?
Whatever controls you will definitely control your relationships. What controls you? Is it the Holy Spirit of God, natural instinct or selfish desires of the old man?
It is absolutely impossible to love, respect and submit to each other except you are filled and guided by the Spirit of God. I love to remind you that, the same principles you need to be a good spouse/partner is the same principles you need to be a good and devoted Christian.
Can you imagine dating someone who is always at war within him/her as a result of not been filled with the Holy Spirit? Such a person can only give you want he/she has within, like troubles, struggles, stress, hot-temper, selfishness, anger, hatred, quarrels, jealousy, envy, etc, all of which are manifestation of the flesh. You can only give what you have; you cannot give what you don’t have. Galatians 5:19-26.
Let the Spirit of God guide your life.
Note that, the desires to do good intentions is the centre issue. One of the works of the Holy Spirit is to guide you to rightly desire and do good things. Life is full of desires, for this reason, life is all about control, and about what controls you.
You can only manifest what you consistently meditate on. There is power in daily meditation. When you are in the Spirit (praying in tongues and meditating on the Word of God), it will be almost impossible for you to commit sin and you will be able to judge all things rightly. In fact, you will respond to every situation with love easily because the Holy Spirit, the Spirit of love is in control of you.
“He will keep you in perfect peace whose heart is stayed on Him…” Isaiah 26:3.

CONFESSION
I believe by now you must have assess your life to see if you have been led by the Spirit of God or by your lustful desires. You can only be led, guided or controlled by the Holy Spirit when you give your life to Christ to become the Son of God. “For as many as are led by the Spirit, they are called the children of God…” Romans 8:14-16. Ephesians 1:13-14. I therefore invite you to accept Jesus Christ into your life today if you are not saved yet, that His Spirit may come and abide in you. If you are deciding for Him today, just say this prayer:
“Lord Jesus, I am a sinner. Please come into my life and forgive me all my sins. I believe You died for my sins and rose from the dead. Now, fill me with Your Holy Spirit and guide me from this day forward. Thank You Lord for loving me. Amen.”

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