HOW TO ENJOY BEING SINGLE

By Pastor Kunle Osunkunle

Ecclesiates 3:1-8.

Singleness is a state or stage towards perfection. It is a blessing to enjoy, not a cause cursed to endure on the way to fulfilling destiny. Singleness is not a disease.
Many are frustrated, depressed and maligned because of being single; thereby always looking forward to when they will get married.
Get this clearly first!
"There is time for everything..." ...a time to be single and a time to get married.(Paraphrased). Never be hasty in life to do anything.
You must discover the purpose of all things per time so as not to abuse them, rather to enjoy their benefits.
Stop living your life as if the only thing you want, that you are desperately pursuing is marriage. Matthew 6:33, Col.2:10.
Most singles who are desperate to get married end up in wrong relationships which eventually will shatter their dreams, visions, hopes and aspirations in life.
Singleness is a time to discover yourself in Christ. It is a time to devote yourself totally to God. A time of exploit for God and a time to lay great foundation for the future. It is not a prison for the deliquents, but a time to know God, trust Him, trust yourself and build on purpose.
It is a time to discover who you really are in Christ, that is, your purpose in life.
"You need to enjoy where you are on the way to where you will be." Pastor Kunle Oshunkunle.
It is only when you are fulfilled as a single that you can confidently fulfill relationship/marital demands (and other future demands of purpose).
Therefore, singleness is a time of learning - learning the good, the bad and the ugly. Then, concentrate on the good. It never a time to fantacize and day-dream,but to focus on the experiences of NOW.
There are so many unfulfilled singles who are getting married thinking their spouse will help them fulfill purpose.
The greatest gift of singleness is TIME.
You have great time to yourself as a single with little demands. This poises the greatest challenge. So, the greatest challenge of singleness is WHAT TO USE THE AVAILABLE TIME FOR. There is time on single's hands! It is a time of FREEDOM.

WHAT TO DO AS A SINGLE?

GRATITUDE TO GOD: The first thing to do is to always remember to thank God for who you are, your state and position. God puts you there, "...you are fearfully and wonderfully made..." Psalms 139:13-16. Be grateful for all situations. 1Thes.5:18.
DEVOTION TO GOD: Dont be idle with time. The best thing to do with time in your hands is to absolutely devote yourself to God without any distraction and uphold good things. Phil.4:6-9. Serve God diligently and faithfully. Rom.12:11, Eccl.12:1-7, John 9:4. Build your confidence and trust in God in all things. You can only love someone truly when you have loved God and yourself truly. You must love God and yourself for you to love anyone else. John 13:35; 14:12; 1Cor.7:32-35. Also, learn to hear God and dig deep through studying to know God. 2Tim:2:15. Spend most of your time in God's presence, seeking hard after Him. Ps.42:1; 63:1-2.
DEVOTION TO ONESELF: It's also important to devote time as a single to build yourself up to become what you will like to be in the future. Take time to celebrate yourself as you celebrate God, dont tolerate yourself to indulging in bad vices. Then, you will be able to celebrate other people. Build yourself to balance all ramifications of your life - emotions, intellect, finance,career...
DEVELOP GOOD AND POSITIVE ATTITUDES: Have right attitudes to things around you. Learn to appreciate right things that will give you happiness. Look beautiful and attractive. Nobody wants to marry someone who is not happy about himself. Always look bold and confident and make people around happy.
PASSION LIST: Make a list of your godly passions list and try to fulfill them because you may be unable to do them when you get married due to important marital demands. Nurture yourself in the things you rightly desire and cherish.
INVESTMENT: Avoid idleness! Idle hands are devil's craft tools. Invest in other people's lives. Do things to improve lives around you because you have the strength to do it now. Always invest in things that will improve the quality of your life that will make you most desirable and indispensable. You will become secured and stable, expensive and really worthy. Remember that by divine law, like poles attract, while unlike poles repel each other. Amos 3:3, 1Cor.6:9-13. This is against law of magnetism
FRIENDSHIP: Make godly friends that will help your destiny and spend memorable times together pleasing God. 1Cor.15:33

Finally, singleness is not a curse to struggle with or looking around for an elixir as a remedy, rather, it's a blessing from God for such a time as this in the pursuit of fulfilling His purpose.
Spend your God-given abundant time wisely as a confident single going somewhere to happen for God.

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God bless you.

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